When two people aren’t ready to talk in the same room, a mediator goes between them. With Separate Rooms, each of you talks privately with a calm AI mediator — and only the words you approve, word for word, are ever carried across.
Private by design. Nothing you say crosses until you say so.
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Built for the moment you can’t be in the same conversation yet — a cooling-off period, a distance, a fight that’s too raw to have face to face.
You talk to the mediator on your own — say the raw version, the unfair version, the part you’re still working out. Your partner never sees any of it. Their room is just as private from you.
It listens to each side, finds what actually needs to be said, and drafts a note to carry across — calmer than the heat of the moment, but true to what you meant. It takes no one’s side, ever.
You see the note before it’s sent. Change it, send it word for word, or keep it private and send nothing. Your partner does the same on their side. Nothing moves between rooms without a yes.
The message you’d send at 11pm isn’t the one you’d stand behind in the morning. Separate Rooms puts a calm, neutral step between the feeling and the sending — so what reaches your partner is the point, not the heat.
You can’t be fully honest in a shared thread your partner is reading in real time. Here you get a room that’s truly yours to think out loud in — and a mediator that helps you decide what’s worth carrying across.
Privacy is the whole design. What you say in your room stays in your room; only the notes you explicitly approve ever cross. We never sell your data, and you can export or delete everything, anytime. Read our plain-English privacy policy →
No — and it isn’t trying to be. It’s AI guidance: a private, always-available way to move a stuck conversation forward. If there’s abuse in the relationship, or you’re in crisis, please reach a professional or a crisis line — in Ireland, the Samaritans on 116 123; in the UK, call 116 123 or text SHOUT to85258.
You don’t need your partner to begin — most people start on their own, free, and open Separate Rooms when the time is right. Couples mediation is part of Premium (12.99/month in your currency, less than a tenth of one counselling session) — and one subscription covers the person you invite. They never pay to talk with you.
Free means free: 10 messages a day, for as long as you want · Private by design · Not therapy, and honest about it